Love is an emotion that is concerned with the happiness and freedom of others. So applied to Mrs. Webgoji, I want her to be happy and be able to pursue all her dreams. Ergo, I try to show my love by cheering her on in her pursuits, letting her know I'm confident she can overcome her obstacles, giving her a comfortable, safe place to live. Etc.

What it's not is painful. Attachment is painful because we over-exaggerate someone's good qualities and then expect them to live up to those imaginary states. When they don't (which they can't), we're disappointed and upset.

Love is about the happiness of others, but if we express our love for others appropriately, we gain happiness as well. Attachment is the selfish desires of our self.