so you are trying to plan this huge meeting between you, the landlady and the other resident that lives in your home as apposed to in your head. the idea of having this huge meeting is triggering you and you are afraid that during the meeting your alternate personalities will take control rather than you remaining grounded?

my suggestion if its this triggering for you then yea the alters will probably take control. one thing about DID is that if theres something the host (person in which the alters live inside of) gets triggered about the alters are there to take care of the situation so that the host can continue to survive. so if this was me I would not plan nor have this big major meeting.

instead I would contact the police the next time I felt unsafe. America has domestic violence laws that protect people that live in the same home together. they can be husbands, wives, other family or like in your situation roommates where one roommate feels emotionally or physically abused by another. the police come to the home, assess whether there is someone being emotionally/physically abusive and if so that person is removed from the home, taken to jail, arraigned on the domestic violence law. sometimes that means the abusive person has to move out of the residence, other times it means the abusive person has to pay a fine for domestic violence and in some cases a protection order is issued where the abusive person and their victim can not be with in 500 feet to a thousand feet of each other at any time.

There are also domestic violence programs that have access to special services that can help victims of domestic violence with safety issues and in some cases help the victim move into a shelter in an undisclosed location where the abusive person can not find them, and help the victim relocate/establish a new and safe home.