The thing is, she hasn't done anything that's actually illegal or violent, so the police wouldn't be able to do anything. It's all passive-aggressive stuff that doesn't qualify as domestic violence, but it's definitely creating a hostile environment. It's so bad that I'm afraid to come out of my room to eat or use the bathroom when she's at home because she'll be cruel to me.

But she hasn't done anything violent or violated the lease in any way, so I don't have any legal grounds to kick her out. Basically, unless she chooses to move out on her own, I have to live with her. And she's got the good end of the deal--since she's the one being the [passive-]aggressor, she can stomp around and slam doors and yell while I'm cowering in my room having flashbacks. There's no incentive for her to change her behavior.

So if we don't have a meeting, this situation continues unabated, and I'll just live in a perpetual triggered, dissociated state as my ability to function deteriorates. But if we have the meeting and I can't stay in control, then things could get even worse than they are now. I feel like I'm trapped in a no-win scenario, but there has to be some answer, some way out. I just can't figure out what it is.