Hi mommaxo. I had this same pattern when I was young, following a sexual assault. I'm wondering if you had been sexually assaulted? Is there a deeper reason why you do the one night stands, or is it to feel wanted or attractive? These were all part of my pattern. The alcohol is a big problem now that you're pregnant and I'm so glad you're doing so well and going to the AA meetings to avoid drinking. After your baby is born you'll have to maintain your sobriety if you will be the baby's caregiver so the work you're doing now is crucial, for both yours and the baby's futures. I wish you a lot of good luck, but I hope you'll think about the reasons for the sex. If you only have sex (or find a partner) when you're drinking, it really isn't about the sex itself - there has to be a deeper reason. Best of luck to both of you!