We each have the right to set and enforce our own boundaries. When they are crossed we can say so. We can say what happened and that we don't like it and why. It can be very calm but direct.

For example, I lashed out at someone recently. Their response was an explanation of my behavior that was not acceptable to them and a statement "I don't like to be treated that way."

Or a personal space boundary would be addressed with "You are stading closer than I'm comfortable with. Please move back." .

It's like assertiveness: "When you....", "I feel...." "Don't do.." or "Do...".

I hope this helps.

The bottom line is you can't know what the other's boundaries are unless they say so. And they can't expect you to know if they don't tell you. So you can relax and not worry. If it happens the other person will let you know.

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