being able to sense/know that an alter is crying/sobbing/ knowing their thoughts (in other words being co conscious) was limited with me but I did on rare occasions go through this.

one thing that helped was my therapist explaining to me that being co conscious like this is actually a good thing and makes the healing process easier. the host and treatment provider dont have to make a guess on whats going on. they can ask the alter and the alter can use what ever their communication skills and co consciousness with the host to let it be known what is going on and what that alter needs.

example on very rare occasions I would be able to feel what a sad alter was thinking and crying. I would think back to them....I hear you, I can feel you, what can I do to help you. what is got you sad and crying. and the alter would share their thoughts back to me I'm scared of that person you are talking to. and I would think back to them ok hold on a moment. then to the person that has the alter triggered I would make an excuse as to why I must end our conversation...oh wow I forgot to get to the post office, I better get going so i can get there before it closes, nice to see you again, then I would find that alters favorite stuffed animal and blanket, take them to a quiet place and spend some time just calming down, unwinding.

It is a really great thing that you and your alter are co conscious. if you have a treatment provider maybe they can help you to come up with a list of calming/self nurturing things you and this alter can do when they are feeling upset at work or any place else.