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Old Nov 13, 2014, 11:54 PM
whateverforever1 whateverforever1 is offline
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Originally Posted by Utterly View Post
Well, I talked about skills before. The therapist alone, is okay, but you really need skills to get the whole deal that's actually going to help out with the dealing with depression, and disappointment in a different way.

I know that the idea of group really was unappealing for you. For one thing, you're concerned about privacy and seeing people in the future in a career... what then?

For another, you're really cautious and its difficult to start something new.

The privacy/career thing is pretty easy when you think about it. There are about 300 million people in the states. The likelihood of your seeing any of these people in a professional setting is a heck of a lot lower than the chance your winning the lottery. Plus I pretty much guarantee no-one is going to be anxious to be outing everyone in the group. (A) no one cares, and (B) they'd be doing it to themselves too.

Group is almost certainly different from what you imagine too. You can be as open or closed as you want. You can be a total cryptic enigma wrapped in a riddle if you want.

Now, no one can force you to call again, or give group a chance. Certainly not some rando on the internet... but I do have to wonder, if you're willing to say "**** it, lets give oblivion a chance," why wouldn't you give a frigging skills group a chance?

I don't trust people. It's hard for me to even talk to a therapist let alone a group of strangers. I have a lot of shame too and for years tried to go without any therapy at all. Clearly, did not work. Going into a group of people I think will only heighten that.

Also... I wouldn't know what to ask her. "Hi can I start your group". It's so hard for me to ask for help. So hard.