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Originally Posted by purplepearl
Husband and I have only been married a little less than a year. I used to enjoy my job, then things got really tense in my department due to upper leadership not playing nice with my manager. I transferred to another department (and location, big organization) and received a hefty pay increase. I thought that this new department would be the key to my unhappiness, but it seems especially over the last year, that I've been more and more interested in being a homemaker.
We don't have kids yet, so I can't even use the excuse of "wanting to be home with baby" - I just really don't like working. I hate having to be somewhere at a specific time, doing mindless work. I sit in a cubicle, stare out the window, or sometimes surf the internet (like now) and wonder, "am I wasting my life?"
I had a few days off recently (weekend, plus Monday and Tuesday) and realized that I loved having that time at home. I got some much needed cleaning finished, did a meal plan, started some laundry, watched a few episodes of my favorite TV show on netflix, even had the energy to cook dinner last night in addition to giving husband a ride to and from work (he had a flat tire).
I know it doesn't seem very interesting, but the past two days not being at work were marvelous.
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That you used to enjoy your work means that you can enjoy working - it is just that the current work is not enjoyable.
Having three days off against the background of a boring workplace routine would feel fabulous to everybody. When your H worries that you'd be bored, he is not talking about three days off work - he is talking about being a homemaker day in and day out. Have you tried that? You probably have not, so you are extrapolating from those liberating three days at home to a lifetime as a homemaker. Your H might be right (he knows you well, after all) and you'd get bored.
Also, if you take the position that whoever is more bored at work should become a homemaker, then your H would be the candidate, and not you. You are bored while he positively hates his job. And, he makes $10K less. So the decision would be in his favor. Not that I am suggesting this, but just as a mental exercise in decision-making.