Oh God, this is such a difficult topic. My T has never used the word boundaries. He has told me to call if I need him and I have. I obsess for hours before making the call, usually. I don't call often, but I do if I feel distressed enough and can't work it through on my own. I believe that's the nature of the therapeutic relationship. I am not good at boundaries. There were none in my family growing up. I am not good at drawing boundaries for myself either and T has pointed out that I have let people usurp me. It's one of my touch-points! I would just die if I inadvertently crossed a boundary and someone told me to back off, so I don't push too hard in relationships. Not a good thing.