We definitely have tried to encourage this route but we simply do not have the time in our young lives to dedicate to the amount of stuff she has. She has a collection of thousands of VHS recordings from television we wanted to turn digital...after days of digitizing we barely made a dent!

Unfortunately my future MIL likes to talk about things, but when it comes to actually pursuing them on her own...all is lost. She wants someone to sit with her and hold her hand (I really do think it's about the attention sometimes). If we aren't around she will not take the time to do the things she talks about and proposes. She's proposed garage sales, craigslist, digitizing...but she never looks into them on her own, always expects us to basically do it for her :/

Although I'd love to help her, and hold her hand, it is unrealistic (and unfair). We have our own lives to deal with too! Work, school, moving to a new place...it's very unfair that her past is our future, so to speak....

I hear her stories of traveling all over the world and her old businesses...I'd love to do the same in my own life! She doesn't understand that her son is putting her first--buying her a house was not cheap! We're still renting a one bedroom for ourselves and it's hard to imagine dedicating more resources to her situation when we haven't started our own lives yet.

I definitely want to go to couples therapy so that my fiancé and I can get on the same page...I just feel guilty that these are HIS issues and I don't want to force it.