Let's say there is a job that you are very interested in. You read about the field all the time for enjoyment, and you think it is meaningful work that is in alignment with your values and makes a difference. But what if there are aspects of your personality that make the job very challenging, and you feel like you're not very good at it? Would you still want to do this job?
I am worried that I am not assertive, authoritative, and confident enough for my job/my field. I see others succeeding much more easily, and it can be quite difficult for me, though I of course have my certain strengths. I'm just not sure if I can ever learn to be assertive enough. My therapist did not offer her opinion as to whether or not she believes I could work in this field, though I suspect it is because she thinks I wouldn't do too well. It really saddens me because I feel like my life circumstances and family dynamics have led me to repress myself into submission, which is a hard habit to break. I want to feel good about myself, but of course I have to love something that I'm probably not good at. Do you think I can learn these traits, or is it too hard to change? At what point do you keep trying to improve, and at what point do you recognize your limitations and give up?
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