has anyone's T ever called them out about transference or projection? last session my T told me that I try to make the sessions about her and that I need to make them about me not her . she said I could be talking about how I get confused sometimes about her and the mother. and asked if I could consider that my thoughts may not be based in reality. she didn't use the word transference and she didn't say that what I was thinking and feeling isn't real. she was not invalidating or anything like that. I think she was offering a reason why she doesn't agree with my accusations . she has used the word projection before to describe what was going on . I don't know if I agree with any of this. I do know how I feel and what I see and in reality it all feels like I say. it is hard to see things like she says. for the most part I thought transference was when you are in love with your T or idolize him/her. or negative transference is hating your T. I don't hate her I just feel like she hates me or at least she should. at times even other strong feelings .like she wants to punish me or make me miserable . but I don't hate her at all. I have no idea how to talk to her about these things because we end out arguing about it .