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Old Nov 14, 2014, 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway View Post
And, to answer your question, yes, I confronted my therapists a lot about using transference as an excuse not to take responsibility for their behavior.

From my own experience with transference I don't entirely agree with this. Yes, I did want my T to take responsibility for her behavior, but with hindsight and almost two years worth of additional therapy I can see that I was often asking her to take responsibility for my perception of her behavior. I mean, at one point I wanted to launch myself over a table at her because she started picking at her fingernail in the same way my mother does. I can imagine she felt pretty threatened by things like this.
What I really needed her to do was stay calm - she didn't, and I do hold her accountable for that.

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