Relationships are usually pretty complex in us as is our emotional instability.

We can sometimes see relationships in an all or nothing light - totally working or bugger off. Black and white.

Seems to me you're starting to see a bit of the grey area now in this relationship. Which could be a turning point for you. If your relationship does progress and start to blossom there is the possibility that in some aspects you could start your black and white all or nothing thinking.

Are you seeing a therapist to help you through this transition?