I was talking about my personal experience only. When it comes to our experiences, there is nothing there to agree or to disagree about. They are what they are.

When someone describes their experience to me, I take their narrative at the face value because there is no way for me to check what really happened. When someone says they realized later that they were indeed having transference as opposed to the therapist doing something wrong, I accept it.

When I say that in my case transference was not the issue, but an excuse for the therapist not to take responsibility for their mistakes, this should be accepted it as well.

I didn't say that what happened to me always happens in therapy with everybody. I only talked about my personal experience, so it's not a matter of agreeing or disagreeing.