I sometimes do not discipline my kid(s) because I know that if I step in my rage will come out full-force! Also, when one kid hurts the other I feel so helpless and enraged at the same time....I kind of get paralyzed and do nothing.

Though in the past few years I have met with a therapist and had weekly parenting sessions. I've learned lots of tools and parenting skills. Have read one excellent book, ''Setting Limits'', by someone McKenzie, I think. I highly recommend the book. Another favorite is ''How to talk so kids will Listen and listen so they will talk''

The most helpful parenting tools/skills I have learned by getting my own therapy. In gaining awareness about how my past has impacted me, I have become able to be more compassionate toward my own children. Working through the helplessness I felt as an (abused) child has helped me feel 'empowered' and better able to enforce rules and discipline. I used to be 'afraid' to 'control' my kids....to put down the rules....and as I worked through my issues with 'control' I was able to find balance in 'controlling' my own kids....lotsa therapy has definitely made a huge difference in terms of better/healthier parenting.