Look, I don't know where you guys get off saying that she isn't helping me or doing my job or doing things that a life coach should do. She is my life coach. I believe she is certified to be a life coach and is working on being certified as a T. A life coach is supposed to help me get my life together. We talk about my diet, exercise, time management, wardrobe, and organization. Our current project is on hygiene and we're starting with my room. She's not cleaning my room for me. She helped me fill a trash bag to get started and that's it. She gave me homework for the week to get the rest of the trash out of my room and run all of my laundry so next week we can talk about organizing stuff and coming up with a plan to keep it clean for the future. That's not cleaning my room at all.

It was eye opening for her because she got to see:
1) empty wine bottles everywhere
2) a little bit of what I'm eating
3) how much I'm actually caring for myself. She said it was a huge clue into the state of my depression

I've never been able to keep my room clean outside of my parents' house. I clearly need help to learn how to be a cleaner person. I wanted her to come see exactly how bad my mess levels are for a long time now. She wouldn't have done it if she wasn't already driving me home, but she said she was glad she did and thinks this will be a good project for us.

Does she play into my maternal transference on top of this? Maybe. I still don't think it's a problem or how she would avoid it. Feelings are okay, even intense ones like maternal transference. She's careful with the transference despite what you guys think.