I'm going to depart a bit from the trend. For me, I'd rather know then not know. Even if I don't want to hear it at the time, I'd like to know what other professionals think of one another - similar to obtaining a reference. I'd rather know then not know, even if that includes the new T perhaps over sharing. That's just another factor I now have in my consideration to stay or leave if this style is too bothersome for me.