How do you explain that something your partner does reminds you of being molested when you were a child? My husband thinks it's funny to flash me, and I'm sure to most people it would be funny. It used to not even bother me as much as it seems to now - now that I realized WHY it bothers me. I finally put 2 and 2 together and realized it reminded me of what a family friend molester did to me when I was 8 to 10 years of age. Along with fondling me, lewd comments, etc, he would flash his privates at me, usually before groping me. When my husband was getting ready for bed tonight and was relaxing in his boxers, he flashed me and grinned at me, which should be no big deal. I guess I got a horrible look on my face which made my husband say "How sad! No husband should ever have his wife look at him like that". It really hurt his feelings. I didn't mean to! I have tried to explain to him before that stupid little things can remind me of being molested when I was a kid and that I can't control what reminds me of being molested. He feels like I am rejecting him, that I am not desiring him, but that's not it at all. This just compounds problems in the bedroom that we have already! I am in chronic pain from fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, and other issues, I am on multiple medications for pain and other problems, as well as having 2 major abdominal surgeries in the past 3 years, including a radical hysterectomy. I rarely even think about sex anymore! I don't want to lose my husband and my marriage but I don't know how to make him understand when I've never dealt with it. Is not like I love him any less than the day I married him - I love him even more!