Hello smartbutcrazy: I hear you... I'm afraid my perspective is that no one really cares about our mental health struggles. As long as we don't cause trouble, even our loved-ones, for the most part, are more than willing to pretend everything is just fine. And, of course, in your situation this tendency is reinforced by the fact that your family has not seen you unstable previously.

I wish I had some great suggestion for you as to how to handle this situation. I don't. In my case, I've just learned to stuff my craziness back down & play along with the idea that everything is just fine. I do wonder sometimes though, if at some point the whole charade won't come crashing down. It has in the past.

My best wishes to you...