What you've stumbled on is something all borderlines need to get the hang of eventually - when enough is enough. I mean surely you must get sick of tired of the same situations too? You're aware that barraging people with texts and going on and on about something just doesn't work as an outlet - it pushes people away and you end up feeling worse. So it's about setting boundaries. You're allowed to feel angry and upset, you just need to work on how to channel such feelings. I would continue to tell people when you're not happy or when you think you've perceived their behaviour as negative. But then leave it. It's actually easier to state your point concisely and back away than repeat the same thing as that will actually lessen the impact of whatever point you're trying to make. The person on the receiving end will just think; 'ugh, she's at it again' and ignore any further messages. Do you see what i mean?

Try it. It doesn't have to be a negative response or something harmful, just something along the lines of; 'this really upset me, i don't think it was fair and i would like the opportunity to discuss it further.' If they respond in kind, great, if not - at least you can move on knowing you've tried to resolve the matter sensibly.

I think unfortunately, because of the kind of vulnerabilities we have, the sort of people we attract in our lives makes this a lot harder. I mean seeing as borderlines are mostly reactive, it stands to reason that if the people around us were more sensible - we would most likely mirror such behaviour. Perhaps you need to take stock of the people in your life and decide what friendships/relationships are no longer working. You need balanced and honest people - the kind who can be sympathetic but not indulgent of your issues. They do exist and they are worth finding.

I think the key to a better life - not just a relationship - is who you have around you and how you respond to them.