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Originally Posted by DbryanYES
Thank you. I find the fact that she did not even call or text to tell me that she could not make it, that made me mad. I felt disrespected. After she postponed the second time, I took that as her way of backing put of the whole thing all together. Then she calls me the next day and apologizes. I feel like she never wanted to meet me. This was all for attention and a boost to her ego.
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Maybe.
Maybe not. See Angelique's post on the first page of the thread - maybe the girl WAS self-conscious. It still means that you are better off having moved on (because as somebody has written, you do not want to date a girl who gets crushed just because some random dude off an app does not find her super attractive), but it does NOT mean that she was trying to get attention and boost her ego. It may mean that but does not have to. Maybe she got cold feet.
As a lot of people have recommended, you need to MOVE ON.
Moving On does NOT mean analyzing and re-analyzing this situation.
Moving On means shrugging your shoulders with "whatever" and thinking about something else.
because in reality you have never seen her - you have only talked to her and written to her. You do not have enough information to go off of to classify what happened with any certainty. So - "whatever" is the right response.
A lot of situations do not provide us with sufficient information to classify them. This is just a fact of life.
The reason I am writing to you at length about it - if you adopt the "whatever" approach - you know, shrugging your shoulders and rolling your eyes - you would become much more casual in your interactions, and being casual and lighthearted would help you strike conversations with girls who would want to see you and who would not do what this girl did, whatever her reasons were. So lighten up!