I agree ^^ it's kind of like focusing on the physical pain takes your mind off the emotional pain for a bit. It's sometimes earlier to deal with. Then tending to the cuts can be a way of looking after yourself when you feel no one else will. Or even sometimes it's like you're speaking on your skin. You can't tell people how you feel, so you show them with cuts. Though in my case I could never actually let anyone see them anyway so that was kind of pointless. Maybe a way of showing myself my own pain? I don't know. The whole thing is just complicated and I think that's why it's not talked about much, as no one has a sure way to "cure" it, cos it goes so deep mentally and of course every case is different. Self harm is more a symptom of the problem, than the actual problem. Of course it is a huge problem in itself, but I guess I'm trying to say that sometimes people just focus on the act rather than the reasons behind it. Maybe hiding behind it? Again, each case is different and I've completely gone off on a tangent, sorry about that.