So sorry you are having such a difficult time-it is soooo frustrating when people toss out those platitudes regarding mental illness-hard to believe that it's 2014 & people are still so prejudiced & uninformed. I sympathize with what you are going through with your family not seeing you unstable before-I know when I remarried almost 8 years ago to a wonderful man I was so wrapped up in my love bliss I naively thought I would not have trouble with my mental illness again-my first marriage was a long never ending nightmare so I was in heaven being with someone who truly loved me. However a couple of years later things began creeping back in & then the creeping snowballed into an avalanche-I tried & was successful in hiding how sick I was for a long time but eventually I couldn't keep it up. I have only recently let my husband see how sick I am at times & thankfully he is understanding & supportive. My parents however are not (even though the apple did not fall far from the tree) so I have worked really hard to surround myself with positive people & found a great tdoc & pdoc to work with me. I believe having a good team to support you is important & I would recommend you try to find a therapist/doctor or whoever that could see you & your family together to help them understand better-I wish you the best & remember you are not alone.