I will try to keep the facts short and pertinent. My gf and I have been dating for 18 months. She's 50 and I'm 49. For the 5 years leading up to our dating, she'd been having an affair with a man who was younger, great looking and very wealthy and powerful. Mind you, my gf is an exec who makes 750K a year. This guy, made 2M and she obviously was entranced by him. When we first began dating, he would not leave her alone. It took a month. She then disclosed that the affair was always on his terms, between 9-5 work days, at her house for sex, no lunches, dinners, trip, cards, etc. since he was married with 3 kids she was sworn to secrecy. Additional the sex was only "the things his wife wouldn't do" which was Oral and ****. When I heard this, I freaked. How could someone so driven and powerful let herself be treated like this ?
My issues are: After 18 months she told me she does not really care for **** but with this guy, it was hot sometimes. She says she loves me but I don't know how to get past this and respect her. Also what is a man's motivation to do this and treat a woman this way ? I really hate him and don't even know him. I'd like to understand his motivation better too
Thanks