You're so right man it's crazy because it's not like I don't know but the emotions can become so overwhelming...but like you said I have to do a better job of living in the now and keeping my mind off of it. Things have just been so hard for me and my family lately though my dad lives in my home because he has nowhere to go and we're living with my wifes mom because she just had hip and foot surgery 3 weeks apart my own mother is struggling real bad with my 8year old sister and her husband isn't getting enough hours to keep them afloat they're selling everything out of their house...
The stress comes in full effect because I'm the oldest out of 5 (2sisters 2stepsisters) and I've always been helpful and reliable but i feel worthless when my family needs me the most. My car is gone 3rd one this year (what a hell of a story that is) been laid off for 3months only bright spot is that I'm in school right now but with me being 25 I'm in a 4year program and I'm starting to feel the pressure don't get me wrong I'm used to responsibility but so much rests on my shoulders and I feel like I'm failing everyone...
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Originally Posted by Justugh
hey man
i call that a case of the why mes .........where when u compare self to others never measure up (grass is greener on the other side of the fence type of thing)
so far i have not figure out any fool proof way of killing them when it starts but some stuff that alters it is
Kids or animals ........u go and play with them just distract self from the thinking and live in the now (can not be mad or sad with a laugh coming out) kids and animals are great for that
as for your wife going off she could of been blowing off steam about something else u are not aware of and with the way u are thinking it came off worst in your mind then it was ment to be
ummmmm.....u can try a mini vacation with your wife ( just a over night trip to something u guys enjoy ) kids stay with grandparents or a family u watch their kids when they need a break ............something like that will go a long way to destressing yah and getting head back in the game plus make the wife happy (happy wife happy life)..........the getaway would run yah about 400/500 bucks with a good hotel room for the night (nice bed and good bathroom) plus a dinner out and a show (just rem to bring home some nick nack for the kiddies and u are golden)
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