I'm sad too, for myself and all the other birthmothers out there who no one ever recognizes or remembers, and who continually are told by people who have never experienced such a deep trauma to "get over it already." My son will be 19 in a couple of weeks and while time has healed some, it has not, cannot, and will not heal all, and I have a helluva time getting people to understand and accept that. So I'm feeling very alone today. I chose to give my son a better life, which he has had, in spades. He is my only child and I mourn that too today -- lost opportunities, I guess. I like to think I would have been a good mom, but I gave up the chance so as not to ruin my boy's or any other kid's life while I figured it all out.



CB