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Originally Posted by CANDC
It is a condescending attitude of superiority of one person to another. It is also NOT communicating. By cutting off the other person the person pulling a control move is basically treating them like a kid being immobilized and kept in the dark as parents often do to bolster their waning sense of self importance.
Unfortunately this type of communication (really lack of communication) is too common leading to dysfunctional relationships.
If you want a term how about "dysfunctional communication"
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This is the way a certain unnamed parent of mine used to talk to me for most of my childhood. I was constantly stuck saying:
ME: Don't do that!
PARENT: Don't do what?
ME: That thing you're doing!!
PARENT: ?
I could never ever get it to stop.
I suspect this happens ALOT between people. It really needs a good name. Maybe just "condescending" or "controlling" is right, but I think that usually the person doing it will deny that and may even be unaware that they are doing "it" whatever "it" is.
- vital