withit, I think your idea to just let your new T be herself is an excellent one. Transference doesn't even happen in all therapy relationships (some approaches, in fact, don't recognize it as existing). If transference happens with your new T, it will take its own form and you will then become aware of who you are transferring onto your therapist. I don't think you can decide at the outset if you are going to have transference, who it is going to involve and why, etc. Your unconscious will do it, and then your conscious can try to make sense of it.

I never had transference of any kind with my first counselor. Since I didn't even know what transference was, I didn't expect it. When I did get it with my next therapist, the current guy, it really hit me hard. If I someday have yet a third therapist, I wonder if I will be too cognizant of transference's existence and feel like something is missing if it doesn't develop?

I'm trying to think who I transfer onto my current therapist. I think it would have to be significant others, both current and past, and maybe some of my mom too. My T is about my age (5 years older).

(P.S. withit, why did you leave your prior therapist? She sounds really nice.)