You are right about that! I think it would be on an individual basis, the sex component of a relationship is only one fraction of what it takes for a relationship, as you know. Some people base it all on sex in the beginning. Sometimes that work, sometimes not.

Because of the nature of my history with the opposite sex, I have a lot of feelings of strong dislike for them. From what I understand, you attract exactly the type of dysfunctional mate that you have always dealt with. That is not such a good outlook. Most men my age are gross and disgusting. However, I think I am no prize right now and don't know why anyone would want to hang around me, I don't even want to but have no choice. I know that the low self esteem does not help attract anyone, and here I go back into the circle.

I can never seem to get to the point that I like myself and I think I want someone to show they care for me so I will care for me. Another person cannot tell you who you are, so I guess I am stuck. I've been trying for years to build up my self esteem but it is just not happening. I guess the dreams make me realize that I do long for someone to love me.