he's your husband you are supposed to be able to trust him. let alone feel safe sleeping beside him. He betrayed your trust, and being drunk is not an excuse for what he's done. You should feel safe, and comfortable when you are around your lover, not the opposite. Him feeling bad for what he's done, doesn't mean it makes you feel anymore confident that he's not going to do again. I would personally leave that relationship. He tried to raped you in your sleep. I wouldn't be able to forgive him If i were in your shoes. He's how old? he should know sexual boundaries between you two already. Not having sex with your wife when your drunk and she's sleeping is usually a given.