So this new t has her office in the basement of her house...so one day I see her child leaving the house...and another day I see her husband on the porch....

Something about it is disorienting to me. I can't quite put my finger on it. With my previous t (there I go again) I knew nothing about her personal life. Nothing. Until a few years into treatment, when someone told me my t has children....
She was a blank slate. I found that helpful. It was what I needed.

This new t is no longer a blank slate. And it's not my comfort zone, knowing about her personal life.

That she hasn't birthed any children makes me feel she can't relate to my struggles as a mother. (That child I saw is a foster kid, a teenager). That she's married and has s-x oh my god.....I hate to know too much about her!