sister, I too love the story about your leaving the room to get a drink of water. That definitely sent a message! Lately, I have been fantasizing about what I would do if things got too intense in therapy with my husband there. I've been thinking I would just get up and leave to take a bathroom break. I think that is preferable to curling up in a ball on the couch.

SecretGarden, that was fascinating your T thought your bringing a drink to therapy was a defense! Actually, I think he needs to lighten up a bit. Or maybe he is just jealous and wants whatever you're having. I view coming to therapy as paying a visit to my therapist, and since he is the host, it is up to him to either provide drinks or not to. I wouldn't bring a drink into his office (except maybe water) as I would consider it somewhat rude since he wouldn't have one. When I go to therapy, my T always offers me a bottle of water, and sometimes he offers me tea, which sometimes I accept and sometimes I don't. If he makes me tea, he will sometimes have some also, or sometimes just make my cup for me but not imbibe himself. I don't consider it defensive in any way to drink tea in his room. I especially like it when we drink tea together and consider it therapeutic.