Last session was my first couples session with my husband. Several things stand out to me.

I liked how T adapted his position in the room to where my husband and I chose to sit. I sat in my normal place, and my husband sat across from me, in T's typical place, so T sat at 90 degree angle to us both, exactly in between us. I liked how he was so adaptable and didn't try to control where we sat.

I liked how T tried to take care of me in the session. He had told me it would be hard to move from individual to couples therapy, but he would look out for me and make sure I was taken care of. So occasionally during the session he would turn to me and check in, asking me how I was doing.

I was pretty quiet in the session, and T knew my goals. I liked how he would listen to something my husband said or was projecting and turn to me and say, "did you hear what he said?" Or "do you feel that?" And emphasize something he didn't want me to miss, as it aligned with part of what I told T I had wanted from the joint session. He was taking great care that I abstracted as much meaning as possible from the session.

On the way out, T shook first my husband's hand, then mine. He has never shaken mine before, so I liked that. As we shook, I said thank you from my heart as I looked into his eyes. Then he put his arm around me and gave me a little sideways hug. He's only done that once before, after a really intense session. I felt like he really cared. I hope he went home after this session and felt great about his role. He did a really good thing for us.