Tol7942, I have been talking with people about this and find that it is more common than I expected-- we are not the only ones, for sure. I went from one toxic workplace to another, which really does make me feel like it is me, even though my coworkers and others agree that the behavior of the bosses is pretty insane. At least I had learned my lesson and quit the second job in under a year (should have quit within the week).

Fresia, I want to print out what you wrote -- it gives me hope that things will get better.

I just find that I don't trust my judgment at all anymore. A friend wants me to work for her company, but I am getting a really bad feeling about it after doing some contract work for them. I am trying to withhold judgment until I hear their offer, but I just dread the idea so much.