I've been with my long distance boyfriend for almost a year & a half, but this past month has been very rough for us. We are in love & have had a great relationship despite our relationship being slightly unconventional, but I think the distance is really taking its toll & my insecurities definitely don't help. Besides being unconventional because we only see each other for 4-5 days every 3-4 weeks, we are also in an open relationship. My boyfriend has been married & divorced twice in his 38 years & he never had the chance to really date & experience different women & all that goes along with one sowing their wild oats. So, we decided that safely practiced casual sex with others without any attachments is allowed until we make a more permanent commitment such as, me moving across the state to be with him which is what I eventually want.

Anyway, my boyfriend started a new job last month & is doing a lot of traveling. Recently he's started this thing where he often doesn't reply to my text messages (but can post on Facebook), forgets to call me, & has even forgotten to tell me a few VERY important things while insisting he did tell me. When I tell him that he did not tell me such & such, he says, 'I've talked to so many people lately, I can't remember what I said & who I said it to'. One of the important things he forgot to tell me was that he has to travel for work over NYE so, our holiday plans are now canceled. I think I would've remembered if he had told me that or not.

My boyfriend admits to being tired & stressed out. He also admits that he's feeling bad because he feels like he can't give me what I need in our relationship & committment. I feel like he distancing himself & I actually tried to break up with him the other day. We ended up talking it out & he's promised to be more mindful with me, but I'm still very worried.

Do you think he is having a selective memory with me because of his unsuridy of our relationship & his inability to give me the type of relationship I want from him right now I r am I being too picky & expecting too much from him during this exceptionally busy stressful time?