I am just probing in the direction given by RomanSunburn - so you were in NYC and he transferred his job from somewhere to NYC? Where was the somewhere? If he was raised and used to live in the middle of nowhere and transferred right into Big Apple, there you have another big big life change and a stressor. It is called BIG Apple for a reason. The lifestyle is totally different. It is a country of its own... not really like the rest of the US. A country boy uprooted and planted in NYC with a baby, a step kid, and a woman he does not really know that well... this could be the culprit. Not necessarily IS, but could be.