yeah sweetie, let her be herself. transference takes time to develop and you can have all kinds of transference responses to people.

my t can be... my mother. even though he's not female!
he can be the mean kids at school who pick on me too. even though he's lit little!
he can be
he can be

its quite surprising sometimes.

that being said i do think that the actual characteristics of the therapist do come into therapy. i got a lady t once who wasn't much older than me. she became a big sister / auntie to me. that was real nice. i guess there were aspects of mother too. but mother is hard for me. what most people get from 'mother' i get from 'father' and stuff... but anyways... little time, yeah :-)