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Originally Posted by brokenentity
I feel like I'm stopping myself from excelling at the things I do. When you're really good at something, you develop a reputation, and every time you fail or under-perform at the same thing, your abilities are brought into question as people expect more from you? Is that true, I feel so.
I'm just sort of happy being 'average'. People don't expect much from you when you're just 'average'.
Well, recently, I've developed this rep of being good at something, I don't really know if I'm good or not, but it's added pressure that I'm not really enjoying at the moment. It's stressing me out.
I need some advice.
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Well, there are tons of expectations for "average" because the only expectation is that everyone is perfect. If you're any less, people will remind you.
That said ... the only person that can put an expectation on you is you. If someone else expects something out of you like being great at basketball, getting that book written, whatever. Then they need to get off their butt and get it done themself. The only "expectations" are work and school requirements and those aren't expectations, but part of doing the job. So do your best to the best of your ability. That's all you can do so go do it!
As far as failure goes, you'll never fail until you quit trying. You can have setbacks and rejections and frustrations, but if you're still trying you haven't failed yet.
