As I read your responses and all....I think I'm gaining some clarity....I like the 'older woman' thing....the 'all-knowing' gramma, the wise old woman....calm and serene...lots of life experience behind her....lots of time on her hands (for me, lol) cuz she's not busy with her own young children/teens...

And this new t....so young....will she have the life experiences...is she as wise as I need her to be....will she have all the answers....

Still trying to get used to a 'young' t....lol....

I think bottom line is my concern, ''Is she competent?"