Something you can try is taking more control of the sex and how it's done so that it's more comfortable for you. If your sensitive to touch, you can try having him not touch you unless you are directing his hands yourself. If your uncomfortable with intercourse, you could try having him use something like a fleshlight on himself while you do other stuff .

Most people, both men and women, definitely need to feel wanted and valued sexually, so even small things like compliments about how he looks & foreplay/ small stuff helps make a difference. Something as small as you saying you "really want to screw his brains out" will make him feel more attractive in your eyes.

Also, has the therapist come up with ways to help with your husband's physical and emotional needs, or only said to wait? Are you okay with him masturbating and having porn, and if so does he know that?

You could give him some pictures or video of yourself for when your not feeling up for sex. You could also try giving him a pair of your panties or bra, give him a kiss on the cheek, blow a kiss, wink, smirk, and/ or saying "have fun honey!". Whatever would suit your personality best.