They really did act in a childish manner - trashing your room - did they make their point? is it cleaner and tidyer? ive always found positive reinforcement works better - maybe if they had said about the things you were doing well that would have made you feel like tidying up...dunno ...

People have stereotypical images of gay people and maybe the fact you shaved your body made them think that ... but that is their problem and you need to realise that and try as best you can to ignore it and yes i know thats hard - remember happiness can be cultivated within even if the people who should be helping you and protecting you are a pain in the ***** !

The thing about not wanting to grow up.... have you discussed this wiht a professional? do you know why it scares you so much? what about beign an adult scares you so?

im sending gentle hugs and hope you feel better soon- cos you deserve to :-) Just be you and know that is more than enough!