I know exactly how you feel. I literally have panic attacks going to visit my family because they are so judgmental of every possible superficial nucance that it's crazy (with me-it's my hair which is always in need of improvement, with everyone else, it's "how crazy they are", or "how they can't control their weight", or who can't keep a job.) Oh, it's like you know you are not only under one microscope but several, and you feel, really feel for the rest of the people they talk about.
I know how it is, and the only thing that I say which shuts them up is "Well, yes, but to each his own, besides, isn't there that quote in the Bible that says, "Judge not or you will be judged?" I kind of believe in that, don't you?" It really works. I'm an atheist and I use it all the time.