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Originally Posted by Nala5065
Despite her age my mom does a good job at taking care of the things I can't for me, but that makes me wonder more what I'll do when she's gone. My twin has always said she'd bring me to live with her, but so far she hasn't learned one of the medical things that will need to be taken care of by someone other than me and I worry that she won't be able to do it so we'll have to have someone else around who already knows how to help with it. I guess my biggest problem is the fear that I'll soon be alone and not have anyone to really help me care for myself. So it stresses me out and increases my depression that I've dealt with for 17 years. My parents are currently in good health so I don't worry that anything will happen soon, but I am unclear as to what will happen when they aren't around anymore.
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Nala,
the way I see it, your sis has not learned to do one of the necessary medical things because doing so would be an indirect act of planning for your parents' death. The death of parents is one of the touchiest and most taboo subjects for children. Planning for the death of a parent or parents is difficult, and sometimes even acknowledging the fact that they are going to die and not live forever is difficult. If you ever have a chance to just visit your twin sister, then maybe you can, in a low key and matter-of-fact manner, request that she learn to do that one medical thing. Just for your stay.
Are you on SSDI or SSI? Have you verified that your old adaptive aquatics place has shut down? Did they refer to you to a similar place or no?