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Originally Posted by geis
She's not doing anything violent or threatening or even violating the lease, so the cops wouldn't be able to do anything. Unfortunately, being a jerk is not against the law. And if she hears me talking to a crisis line, that'll just end up being ammo for her to use against me. Also, if I tell them I'm really worried I'll hurt myself, they'll send the cops after me and drag me off to the hospital. All that'll do is take me away for a few days, and then I'll be in an even worse situation.
I just need to figure out a way to get through this until my landlady and case manager get back to me.
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That is true, but if YOU call - not the crisis line, but the police - and tell them that she is disturbing peace, then they will come check on you guys, and that alone would hopefully deter her from repeating the yelling about you in your presence. And if it does not deter her, then, well, there will be a record of your having called the cops AFTER HER.
So you need to go pee if you have had to hold it in all the while, then call the police' REGULAR number (not for emergencies - not 911, but regular, which is found on the website of your city) and calmly tell them what has been going on. Calm voice, enunciate clearly, do not rush yourself - tell them what has been going on. Then, they will send a cop to the place. when the cop comes, calmly tell him what has been going on and ask, politely, for the report number. If this is too much for you, then file a report online - many matters can be reported to the police online. After you file that report, you will get a case number. Or, you will get a confirmation email with a case number. With that in hand, text your landlady, saying that, unfortunately, you had to escalate the situation and want to keep her in the loop - include the report or case # in the text to the landlady.
And after that, STOP worrying and let the landlady deal with it, because YOU are on the lease and SHE is responsible for providing a safe place to live to you in exchange for the money you pay her. So shift the weight of this issue onto the landlady and leave it to the police, landlady, and your roommate. Do not communicate with the roommate beyond the minimally necessary.
Keep us posted, please.