Do you have another diagnosis besides social anxiety, one that would require such a non-engaged therapist? If you do, then what I'm going to say may not apply, but if social anxiety is a major problem for you, then, to be blunt ...

You need a different T and a different kind of therapy. Your current T may be excellent with certain patients, but to sit quietly when someone with social anxiety doesn't know what to say is not an effective approach.

If you knew what to talk about and how to talk about it and how to maintain a conversation, you would already be effectively dealing with your social anxiety. Letting you sit there is not going to help you. You might benefit more from a directive type of therapy, maybe some form of cognitive and behavioral therapy.

If your T is already a CBT therapist, she's not doing her job. Here are some therapies that have been demonstrated to work well with social anxiety. These also work with many other types of anxiety and I've done all of them myself. Every one of them. So, as you can imagine, to me it seems like a waste of time and money to sit in silence with a T when there are effective therapies out there that can bring about dramatically improvements quickly.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy, which helps you identify anxieties and the situations that provoke the anxiety. At first you may feel uncomfortable while addressing the feared situations, but it is an important part of your recovery. Several types of cognitive-behavioral therapy are used to treat social anxiety disorder, including:

Exposure therapy. You will be guided by a professional counselor to imagine you are facing the feared situation until you no longer fear it, such as eating in public. Next, you may go with your counselor to a public place and eat until, eventually, you can eat by yourself in public without fear.

Social skills training. This therapy helps you develop the skills you need in social situations through rehearsing and role-playing. Your anxiety is reduced as you become more comfortable with and prepared for the feared social situations.

Cognitive restructuring. This therapy helps you learn to identify and improve fearful thinking to help you better handle social situations.

I found that by learning to deal with various fears and feelings of awkwardness and wanting to run and hide -- you know the drill -- I was then able to move onto therapy that dealt with deeper and more philosophical issues of living well. But first I had to get rid of the overwhelming fear that came from terrible traumas in the past. I was also extremely shy and introverted. I'm still an introvert, but I'm no longer the least bit shy, which is something of a miracle considering the way I was when I was young.

I wish you the best.