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Originally Posted by texas.girl93
He told me that the kids are going to be going back and forth between our hometown and our new location. He works 24 hrs and he said that his new girlfriend would be taking care of them while he was at work. He said that if i was uncomfortable with that I could drive up there and visit while she was watching the kids, that he was trying to compromise. He said that I dont get to decide where he takes the kids or who he has care for them. He says that anything i worry about is me being paranoid. That im the one out of line. Im the one hurting other people.
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You are a true fighter! Well done!
the arrangement your ex H is planning is a bad one. If he works 24 hrs and then, presumably, sleeps, that means that the children will not be seeing their father. They will be cared for by a woman who is completely new to their lives.
It is clear that the current arrangement, with care split between paternal grandparents and the mother, is much better. It also does not involve shuttling the kids back-and-forth. So I would go to court ASAP and fight this. Timing is of the essence - I am in a similar situation myself so I know - and the
status quo is something that most judges would uphold. That means that you need to fight this NOW, before it happens, because later, once that routine with the ex' gf is established, your chances will be slim.
Worrying about one's kids being in the care of a complete stranger is not paranoid, nor is it out of line. It is normal, rather.
You did not hurt any other people - being suicidal, you were at risk for SELF, and not at risk of harming others. So he is exploiting your dx. You need to go to legal aid or your school's free legal advice resource and put together a motion to stop that move. That you have been med compliant, seeing the children regularly, and are about to graduate are all factors in your favor, but you need to literally run to legal aid atm.