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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
That is true, but if YOU call - not the crisis line, but the police - and tell them that she is disturbing peace, then they will come check on you guys, and that alone would hopefully deter her from repeating the yelling about you in your presence. And if it does not deter her, then, well, there will be a record of your having called the cops AFTER HER.
So you need to go pee if you have had to hold it in all the while, then call the police' REGULAR number (not for emergencies - not 911, but regular, which is found on the website of your city) and calmly tell them what has been going on. Calm voice, enunciate clearly, do not rush yourself - tell them what has been going on. Then, they will send a cop to the place. when the cop comes, calmly tell him what has been going on and ask, politely, for the report number. If this is too much for you, then file a report online - many matters can be reported to the police online. After you file that report, you will get a case number. Or, you will get a confirmation email with a case number. With that in hand, text your landlady, saying that, unfortunately, you had to escalate the situation and want to keep her in the loop - include the report or case # in the text to the landlady.
And after that, STOP worrying and let the landlady deal with it, because YOU are on the lease and SHE is responsible for providing a safe place to live to you in exchange for the money you pay her. So shift the weight of this issue onto the landlady and leave it to the police, landlady, and your roommate. Do not communicate with the roommate beyond the minimally necessary.
Keep us posted, please.
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Just a bit of heads up...yes a landlord must supply a safe place to live but by legal standards that does not mean safe from room mates. it means safety issues like floors not rotted/holes, stair wells well lit, electrical system isnt going to shock or electrocute someone if they turn on a light, plug in things. here in the USA the landlord is not resposible for things like settling disputes /and making sure room mates are being safe with each other.
the only time managers/landlords are responsible for keeping tenents safe with each other is if its an inpatient facility/mental or physical health adult foster home, mental or physical health group home, assisted living centers for the mentally or physically challenged or senior (over 65 yrs old) assisted living centers/nursing home facilities.
here in the USA the tenants are responsible for what goes on between their neighbors, other tenants/room mates. How do I know this...because I once took a room mate to court and the judge told me the tenent/landlord federal laws (I was on HUD at the time and co renting an apartment) and the state laws.
my suggestion for the both the original poster and anyone else who wants to know what their state and federal laws of what is the tenets responsibility vs landlords responsibilities is contact your local hud/section 8 office, they have this information free of charge to anyone that asks simply because their agency must make sure they and those that work with follow federal and state laws for tennet/landlord responsibilities. in fact they hand out this paper when ever someone applies for hud/section 8 so that they are fully informed about these things.