Do people deserve to hear your threats of violence and rage and revenge . . . how you want to take out your disappointment out on women in general . . . how you might just turn your destructiveness against the world?

When you talk stupid crap, you're going to turn people off. That's real good that you say you don't fully intend any of those threats. I had a feeling that maybe you didn't. However, if you sit around decorating the inside of your head with garbage, your mind is going to start to stink, and your behavior will follow. We become what we think about.

Maybe you could benefit from medication. Then go get it. But you need something else. You need to examine your values . . . your ideas about right and wrong. You've made a lot of threatening statements that nobody has a right to make. Don't say wicked things that you don't mean, if you want anyone to respect you.

About suffering: I don't think it is possible to be a strong person without going through suffering. All human beings must learn to deal with suffering, if they want their lives to be anything good. Sometimes, suffering can overwhelm a person and maybe destroy that person. But most people, especially young people, can get through way, way more suffering than they believe they have the strength to bear.

I can't predict whether you'll come out of this experience a better, stronger person. But I will predict that, if you keep thinking stupid stuff, you have absolutely no chance at all. I will say, again, that no girl should spend 5 minutes with a man who is entertaining the kind of thinking that you've been wrapping your mind up in. And no girl worth having would bother.

So start there. Say, "I'm in pain, and maybe I'm going to cry myself to sleep every night for a month. But, now I will have more compassion for others who are in pain. Also, I will not want to be the cause of pain to others. I will treat others the way that I would like to be treated." Say that over and over and you will be on the right path. And your brain will work a lot better.