I think the dynamics between a T and couples is tough. If the T is seeing you and your husband in personal sessions I wonder how she/he manages to keep every bodies stuff personal. And then there is the dynamics you mentioned about the T seeing one but not the other… I would be a little upset if my T never called back—that has never happened to me. Couple therapy is tough. If you feel overwhelmed, then tell the T…pushing yourself beyond your limits is not going to help you or your husband. Have you mentioned this to your husband?

The only times I have cancelled a session…well, one time I had a really bad T and it took awhile for me to get up enough guts to fire her. So, a few times, I just canceled our sessions. That was kinda sad, when I told her I wanted to terminate therapy she got upset and talked me into coming back a few times. Finally I had to be a little assertive and tell her it was really over—she kept asking why, so I told her the truth—that she was a bad therapist. She cried. I felt bad about making her cry, but she kept pushing me for reasons and I could not bring myself to out and out lie. She was a little weird.

Sorry, I got a little off topic. Really, follow your heart and do what is best for you. The only way for your relationship with your husband to get better is if you both take care of yourself first…and then work on the relationship.